Losing a job after years of dedication and hard work is always devastating, especially if you had a deep-seated emotional investment in your career. Recovering from such a setback can be very difficult and may take some time. Many people feel lost, with no idea of where to turn or what to do next. Depression may set in, accompanied by feelings of listlessness and a loss of purpose and direction. It’s not unusual for people to feel like a failure or to think they’ve let their family down. In the depths of such disappointment, you may not have the energy or drive to turn the situation into a positive. But a career setback can often open the way to an exciting new opportunity, giving you the motivation you need to try something you’ve always wanted to do, maybe even parlay a hobby or personal passion into a business venture. After all, a professional setback has given many famous and successful people the impetus and determination necessary to realize their dreams.
Failure is a great teacher. It forces us to reflect on where we’ve gone wrong and what we could’ve done differently. It also helps focus your thinking and energy. In that sense, a job loss can be a blessing, giving you the time you need to rethink your life goals and how best to attain them. If you’ve been fired, laid off, or downsized, don’t think of it as the end. Try seeing it as the beginning of a new phase, one in which you make the decisions about your life and chart your own course, maybe for the first time. If you still think it’s impossible, consider this: career disappointments motivated Oprah Winfrey, J.K. Rowling, and Steve Jobs and were just the opportunities they needed to find success in their own way, on their own terms.
Discretion and flexibility
The first change to embrace is that you have the flexibility to do whatever you want with your time. Some people find it depressing no longer having a set schedule to follow every day. Try seeing it as finally having the time to investigate new opportunities or work on a business plan, further your education, or look into a completely new career. Never feel guilty! Think of all the time you gave to your former employer, the one that let you go after years of conscientious devotion. It’s your turn now. Use the time wisely.
So what do you want to do?
Deciding what you want to do next is the exciting part. It’s your opportunity to do what you want, whatever that might be. Maybe people have always told you you should be a teacher or a computer programmer or that you’d be a great real estate agent. If it’s something that appeals to you, you owe it to yourself to look into it. Remember, this is your time to try and turn an interest into a livelihood. Most people would agree wholeheartedly that having a job that doesn’t feel like work is the best possible scenario.
Don’t take “no” for an answer
Whether you’re trying to find an investor or looking for a job in a new field, stick with it. Don’t take “no” for an answer, especially if you know without a doubt it’s what you want to do. You might need to get some training or return to school for a while. Don’t get discouraged if you have to make a left turn or two on the way to your career destination.
Learn as much as you can about your new field. For instance, if you love dogs, you could look into starting a dog-sitting or dog-walking service. Spend some time as a volunteer walking dogs for a pet shelter and talk to someone at a professional dog-walking company. Find out their challenges and try to get a feel for how it could work for you.
People are happier doing something they enjoy and find rewarding. Try to see a career setback as an opening, an opportunity for something bigger and better. If you’re happy in your work, it’ll show through in your family and personal life.
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What's going on Dream Chasers!? All is well here. We are getting prepared to relaunch the website in a few weeks. We will be updating things, changing how we present to you and encouraging you more to chase your dreams. We have a whole new branding plan and we hope you decide to get involved with our movement. In the mean time, I have been working on a new book. Here is an excerpt (let me know what you think):
Before you do anything else, you have to decide. You have to stop putting off the life you really want (desire) and decide to start taking the actions that will get you to where you want to be.
Make the decision that your life is going to be the life you dream about. Make the choice to do something, at least one thing that will bring you closer to what you really want. By the way…What do you really want? Write it below. But first, think about it for a few minutes.
What do YOU really want?
What is one thing you really want for your life. One thing that you are willing to work for. One thing you really believe you can achieve if you put your mind to it. Not one fantasy. Not one thing that will be given to you. Write down one thing you really want out of your life. Write down something that will give you happiness and joy. Write down something that will motivate you.
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Start off by writing, I really want…
Today, I decided to start writing this book. I’m not sure if I will write tomorrow but I have been thinking about this book for a few days and I decided today to start. When I was thinking about this book, I was saying to myself that the first chapter would be on deciding because I feel like when a person makes a decision all types of things start happening that he or she isn’t aware of but life actually changes the moment they decide. You change your life by deciding to do what you want to do.
Think about it…I decided to write this book and as long as I continue to put the energy into writing this book, the book will continue to be written. At some point, I will complete this book. Will I publish the book? Will I sell a million copies? Will the book even be good? Who knows, but if I keep this up, I will have a completed book in the future. Can’t you see it? Me standing with my book? It would probably look like this.
What decision are you going to make TODAY?
You see, what happens is that we get so caught up on the next step after deciding (which is DOING), that we never decide. Even worse, we start thinking about what other people will think or do for us, so we never decide. We worry about support, or cost, or whether or not we can do it or not so, so we don’t decide.
I want you to do the complete opposite. Forget about everything else. Just decide. Forget about the outcome. Just decide. Close your eyes (after reading).
Close your eyes and think about your life. Think about the things you have put to the side. Think about the things you never completed. Think about all the things you wished you had done. Pick one and decide to do it.
The goal for today is for you to decide. That’s it.
Never Stop Dreaming
Well, we took off about 5 months on the blog but a couple weeks ago, Julie Morris contacted us and asked to write for our blog. We assumed that having her article published on different websites is her dream so, why not! Since we are bringing the blog back, look out for new post at least once a week about what we are doing from Ice Cream for a Dream, Workshops, Dream Chasing and everything else. See you soon! Never Stop Dreaming!
Fun New Skills for Seniors to Learn
Make your golden years the best ones of your life! You spent years toiling away at your job, doing everything everybody else’s way instead of your own. Now is the time of your life to break out of that habit to do and learn all the things you’ve always wanted.
It’s important to keep learning new things as we age. Learning makes life more interesting and just plain better. Picking up new skills and information helps keep our minds sharp and improves cognitive function. Trying out new stuff also helps us stay social, which can prevent isolationism and depression. Boosting your brainpower helps you feel younger and happier. If you want to take advantage of all the benefits of picking up something new to do in your life, consider the following fun skills that are perfect for seniors.
Take Dancing Lessons
Dance is the perfect exercise for seniors. It helps you get in the doctor recommended daily 30 minutes of aerobic exercise, which burns calories and promotes a stronger and healthier heart. It promotes balance and mobility while being low impact on your joints. If you want to be more social, taking dance classes gives you a fun opportunity to do something new with friends or loved ones or it can help introduce you to new people. If you prefer doing new things on your own, online dance tutorials can teach you from the comfort of your own home. You can pick up new dance moves from around the world be it from salsa, tango, jazz, martial arts style… whatever you fancy! There’s no wrong way to approach this fun and active hobby.
Learn to Play an Instrument
If you’ve always wanted to fill your home with music, learning to play an instrument is an incredibly rewarding skill that you can pick up in your free time. Taking up a new instrument is a great way to take care of your mental health as you age. It improves cognitive function and may create alternate connections in the brain that make up for the natural decline it goes through with time. Making music is also connected to lowering blood pressure and heart rate. People that play music feel less anxious and depressed and there is even evidence that it may help improve your immune system. If you want to learn to play a new instrument, take your time figuring out how to pick the best one for you. For instance, if you are looking into learning the saxophone, a beginner’s model alto or soprano may be a better fit if you have trouble lifting heavy objects. This saxophone buying guide may prove useful for picking the right instrument.
Start Cooking Up Something New
There are numerous benefits to cooking your own food. It’s a healthy habit that allows you to control the ingredients and portions to fit your needs. It helps save money on a fixed budget and encourages you to really think about what you are putting in your body. Best of all, you get a feeling of accomplishment when you sit down to savor every last bit of a meal your created. If you have beginner or even moderate cooking skills, you will find that taking lessons can really open up new culinary doors for you. While your community center or grocery store probably offers special classes that provide hands on teaching, you can also find free cooking classes and recipes online that you can experiment with in the comfort of your own kitchen.
Make the most of your retirement when you spend your free time learning something new. Picking up skills as we age helps improve mental health as well as overall life quality. Try something you’ve always wanted like dance lessons that keep you active and social. Learning a new instrument fills your home with music and keeps you feeling happier. If you’ve always wanted to be a wiz in the kitchen, cooking classes can help elevate your skills with the added bonus of a delicious dish at the end.
Written by The Dream Support Network Contributor: Julie Morris
Ms. Morris is a life and career coach who strives to help others live the best lives that they can. She believes she can relate to clients who feel run over by life because of her own experiences. She spent years in an unfulfilling career in finance before deciding to help people in other ways.
I've been busy doing Ice Cream for a Dream, doing workshops and chasing dreams. Gotta do a better job with the blog post starting next month. For now, back to the grind! If you want to stay up to date, visit our Facebook or YouTube pages. Otherwise, Never Stop Dreaming!
After we picked up our newly wrapped ice cream truck, we went straight to work doing Ice Cream for a Dream at Delucca Park with Project Longevity and the Hartford Guardians, then to the Hartford Public Library and we wrapped up the day at the Wadsworth Museum for their Juneteenth Celebration. We also met Gizmo fro Gizmo's Frens. Basically, Gizmo is famous!
Ice Cream for a Dream is in full swing now. Book us for your next event. Never Stop Dreaming!
As you know, one of the products we sell are our Dream Chaser T-shirts. In a couple weeks, we will be dropping some new designs and we are looking for real Dream Chasers to wear them, chase a dream and take pictures of yourself in our designs. So, this summer, if you are planning a trip, starting a business, working on personal improvement, or whatever type of dream you are chasing; hit us up and we will provide you with a few t-shirts from our new line. Check out a few of the shirts below. ONLY DREAM CHASERS NEED APPLY.
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